5 Terrible Excuses for Why People Let Their Dreams Go
Everyone has dreams and aspirations, and yet most of us in life will never see them through.
And the ones who do achieve their dreams? Many are often left unfulfilled, wandering aimlessly and confused — why?
Because dreams are meant to be dreams, they’re supposed to be unattainable. That’s why they’re dreams, right? Wrong.
Here are 5 terrible excuses for letting your dreams go.
1. You think you’re not good enough.
Everyone has that little voice in their head whispering that they’re pathetic, a failure, worthless. Sometimes, you believe you’ve created the best thing that’s ever been on Earth, and the next day you are wondering how in the world you managed to create such a piece of dirt.
Well, there are many things that science has told us about that little voice. For one, it was originally used as a means of comfort and security. Now that voice is calling you ugly and worthless and you can’t even tie it up and put some tape over its mouth. But that voice can actually be your best ally.
We know our limits, and so do our minds. So, the next time you hear that little old brain of yours telling you that the plan you have for your business/relationship/holiday/life is terrible, think of it as a way of your brain saying this: I can do better, I know I can. I can succeed in my dreams.
2. You say you “don’t have enough time.”
This only needs saying once: dreams are meant to be worked on. And if you don’t have enough time for something you’re passionate about, then you truly never were that passionate about it.
Successful people make time, and if you’re one of those people who are constantly on Facebook, Instagram, or Tumblr, grab a stopwatch and start counting the minutes. When you decide you’re going to sit down and watch TV, start counting the minutes. A recent study shows us that the average person spends an hour and forty minutes on social media each day — over 600 hours a year – still say you have no time?
Drop what you don’t love and start doing what you do love. Life is finite – what do you want to remember at the end?
3. Your peers think otherwise.
“Hey, heard you want to be a writer. Good luck with that — becoming a successful author is, like, super hard, so come party instead.”
Everyone has that one person who insists on putting down their dreams. These people believe that in life, you have to be a realist. Being an artist doesn’t pay bills. What pays bills is working a 9-to-5 job that you might hate, and for what? A nice car, a nice house, a nice job, some status? But what about that dream? What about that dream to be a writer, to publish work?
If you worked that 9-to-5 job and died tomorrow, what would happen? Someone would come and take your place, people would mourn, and that would be it. Your life as a blip in the Earth’s existence. Forgotten. However, if you go out there in that big world and attempt to make something of your dream, you will be more successful than any other millennial who worked all day in a job they despised. Whether it’s being a writer or an entrepreneur — you have the chance of making your mark. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. So go for it.
To quote Alan watts: What would you do, if money was no object? Do it.
4. You say, “I’m not quite ready yet.”
It takes a lot of courage to chase a dream. That becomes more evident when you sacrifice family time, your lifestyle, your hobbies, your finances, and even risk losing everything. No-one’s saying go out and quit your job, burn your bridges, destroy your foundations. But you owe it to yourself to rediscover that passion, that eternal flame that is within all of us to chase our dreams, because you only have one life.
With every day that passes, you are the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again. Time will run from you, and I hear a lot of, “I’m not quite ready yet” or “I’m too young, I don’t have enough experience.” That is bologna. You don’t wait for opportunity, you create your opportunity. There is a path that leads to success – it may be covered in debris — so you’d better get ready to clear it. Because you are ready. You will make yourself ready.
5. You lie to yourself.
Being honest to yourself is one of the hardest things to do in life. People do not like disappointments, and when you are striving to be successful, you always hear the words, “I’m doing my best,” “I work my butt off,” and “I’m always busy.”
Tony Robbins expresses it this way: “The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.
We all have the power to change virtually anything and everything in their lives in an instant. The resources we need to turn our dreams into reality are already within us, merely waiting for the day when we decide to wake up.
We can learn to condition our minds, bodies and emotions to link pain or pleasure to whatever we choose. By changing what we link pain and pleasure to, we will instantly change our behaviours. Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant.”
So, stop with the excuses and go out there and change the world.